In a world encrusted with cynicism and criticism when HONOR breaks through it’s a bright and shining moment! Opportunities are all around us to honor people…strangers as well as people we know. Jesus always had his eyes open to situations where he could encounter a person and show them honor. The Apostle Paul even honored those in authority who were sentencing him to prison! To honor someone is to acknowledge their worth and show them respect.
Genuine Honor I once read that “you can’t give someone responsibility without giving them authority.” Sometimes we mistake placating for honor. “Placating” is to “appease” or to “soothe by concession”. We can throw someone a bone instead of giving them something they can sink their teeth into! It’s the difference between letting someone do a job for you and giving them a job to do. Moses said to give some of your authority to the Joshuas thus honoring the callings and gifts of the next generation. Which brings me to the next topic….
Generational Honor
I was sharing with a group of young people and I asked the question, “What do you feel is the biggest misconception that people my age have in regards to your generation?” I was totally surprised that the answer was “ You think that we don’t want to hear what you have to say.” The fact is each generation needs to hear what each other has to say! I honor and value the perspective that younger generations have in regards to where we are as a culture. My point of reference cannot take me to the places of relevance that are crucial for me. As hard as I try I simply cannot think like a young person! (‘cuz I’m simply not young) In turn the experience and insight that my years have given me are valuable to that young person just heading into life. I’m honored to sit and have coffee with a young person - sharing our insights with one another.
Generous Honor As I was waiting for my breakfast companion to show up at IHOP one morning I noticed a young man contemplating the menu. He was 18-20 years old with an abundance of piercings and tattoos. He asked the waitress, “How much is this if I don’t get the whipped cream?” I felt the prodding of the Holy Spirit that I was to buy this young man breakfast and let him know that God loves him. I approached him and said , “This might seem a little weird to you, but I’m a Christian and I just feel that God wants to let you know how much He loves you and I was wondering if you would give me the PRIVILEGE of buying your breakfast?” His response was “cool!” And of course I encouraged him to get the whipped cream! Sometimes in our religious way we can become condescending. “Here I am to help…. you poor sinner!” But Jesus always treated people with honor and respect…the woman at the well who had five husbands and was living with a man…the woman caught in adultery…Zaccheus the scoundrel. Dr. C. Russell Archer is one of my heroes of the faith. He was a true statesman in the kingdom of God who walked in integrity and grace. My good friend Angie Grimes worked in his office for many years and I asked her what was the character quality that impressed her the most about Dr. Archer. She said, “It didn’t matter whether someone was a window washer or the governor, when they walked through the front door of that office he treated every individual as if they were the most important person on the planet.” That is generous honor. Jesus said, “ When you do it to the least of these my brothers, you’ve done it onto Me.”
Nancy Rupli
Honor releases the good and the God in others. Jesus couldn’t perform miracles in his own home town because he wasn’t honored. As we generously show genuine honor to the old and the young, to the greatest and the least we bring out the best in others and the best in ourselves. “HONOR all people….”
When you think of generosity what do you think of? Is it giving money? I thought so. I think this word needs a bit of redemption these days. As I have been pondering generosity, I have been overwhelmed at the scope and power that a generous lifestyle can make on the social and spiritual environment around us. Let's unfold four generosity principles that, if embraced, can transform the world around us.
Generous Loving
A seasoned pastor recently took my wife and I out to lunch. We got to talking about all his stories and experiences as he and his wife led dying churches back to health. As we were wrapping up the afternoon, I asked him what is the one piece of advice he would give a pastor just starting out. He quickly responded, "Make it all about love. Just love everybody. " The simplicity, yet profoundness, of his statement led me to another question. I asked, "Does it come naturally to you, or is this something that has to be intentional?" He gave the answer I was hoping for, being that I has felt very convicted by this statement Sometimes it is hard to love others, and often people can make themselves hard to love. The love that I am talking about is not an emotion; it is an action and a decision. Being a generous lover is one who makes sacrifices to show love to even the most unlovable. The answer to the question is: Love needs to be intentional. The scriptures say this: "God is love." It paints a wonderful truth in my mind that really being a generous lover is sharing God and there is a lot of Him to go around.
Generous Forgiving
Generosity and forgiveness are two principles that when put together can radically change the path of one's life. I believe the act of forgiveness is one of the most powerful acts in the course of life. We see the most brilliant display of this in the illustration of Jesus as he is hanging nailed to the big wooden cross. With his adversaries standing before him in mockery, He cried out, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they are doing."
A generous forgiver gives out forgiveness freely because they have received forgiveness with out charge. Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult actions you can take. It is saying to one that owes you, whether an apology, dignity, money, or otherwise, "I release you from what you owe and you are free, no strings attached. Forgiveness is a key player in the spiritual economy. Jesus said when you forgive others, God can forgive you. I want to do my part in causing a booming spiritual economy. Being generous forgivers is like a continual stimulus package!
Generous Serving
I believe Being a generous server is the most contagious form of generosity. A friend of mine recently told me a story of a man in his church that had suffered from polio and the disease had taken a toll on his body and had probably carried over to his mental well being as well. The reality is, this hunched over man was a physical mess in every way, although his heart loved the Lord. My friend told me the Lord moved on his heart to go and clean this man's house. He had no idea what lie ahead of him as my friend purposed to go clean this waste land. He didn't recruit a team or hire a crew, he just rolled up his sleeves and wore some gloves and dove in. After that, my friend gave this man a bath for the first time in over 6 months, cut his toe nails and cleaned him up. Well of course, when this once dirty and offensive smelling man showed up on Sunday polished and cared for, the word got out about the generous serving that had taken place, and the church quickly organized a team to regularly care for this man.
Generous Giving I love this quote by Jeremy Taylor, who was a well-known 17th century Christian writer and a cleric in the Church of England.
"He, who gives what he would as readily throw away, gives without generosity; for the essence of generosity is in self-sacrifice."
This both defines what generous giving is not and what its made out of. I remember two similar events that contrast each other and give a clear picture of what he talks about here. Early in our ministry, my wife and I were basically dirt poor and lived literally on God's provision. All the money we had went to continuing the work we were doing in our community. One morning we woke up and noticed that our porch was full of groceries. These were not leftover canned goods. They were purchased groceries from Target. Now I don't know anyone that buys groceries at Target. This was not a cheap gift, and it came just in time for us. This person has remained anonymous and knows the principle of generosity as the essence of self-sacrifice.
My second illustration is not as beautiful. It also involves another porch donor. This time it was a big old box of stinky, worn out shoes, all in a box thrown together. I couldn't possibly give these shoes to anyone and feel o.k. about it. This box quickly made its way to the trash can. There is the old saying when it comes to giving gifts, "It's the thought that counts.'' I would say to that, "Just don't think of me when it comes to your trash!" This person has also remained anonymous.
I want to be a strategic giver that makes a difference and advances the kingdom of God.
At the core of generosity is an understanding that it is a one-way street. Never does a truly generous heart expect anything in return. We can't get away from this underlying truth that remains as an undercurrent. And that spiritual principle is best laid out in Proverbs 11:25:
George Williams
"The generous man will be prosperous. And he who waters will himself be watered."
We just can't escape it. God loves to bless the generous man!
As I was waiting for my breakfast companion to show up at IHOP one morning I noticed a young man contemplating the menu. He was 18-20 years old with an abundance of piercings and tattoos. He asked the waitress, “How much is this if I don’t get the whipped cream?” I felt the prodding of the Holy Spirit that I was to buy this young man breakfast and let him know that God loves him. I approached him and said , “This might seem a little weird to you, but I’m a Christian and I just feel that God wants to let you know how much He loves you and I was wondering if you would give me the PRIVILEGE of buying your breakfast?” His response was “cool!” And of course I encouraged him to get the whipped cream! Sometimes in our religious way we can become condescending. “Here I am to help…. you poor sinner!” But Jesus always treated people with honor and respect…the woman at the well who had five husbands and was living with a man…the woman caught in adultery…Zaccheus the scoundrel. 
